Private shibari lesson: learn to tie in an intimate setting
Develop your skills and receive lots of individual coaching and feedback
Would you like to further develop your bondage skills and really go in-depth? Come and book a private lesson with Butterfly.
We pay full attention to the specific interests or subject you choose, building on the knowledge that you already have.
We pay full attention to the specific interests or subject you choose, building on the knowledge that you already have.
Advantages of private lessons
You will be coached personally with every tie and move, so you’ll learn more effectively and usually faster than during a group workshop. This personal attention also ensures that Butterfly immediately identifies your personal interests and challenges, and we can zoom in on them. Not only does she teach you what and how to tie, but she also explains why. She wants you to understand the logic behind it, so that you can continue on your own - not by copying, but by truly understand how and why you make certain decisions while tying.
You will be coached personally with every tie and move, so you’ll learn more effectively and usually faster than during a group workshop. This personal attention also ensures that Butterfly immediately identifies your personal interests and challenges, and we can zoom in on them. Not only does she teach you what and how to tie, but she also explains why. She wants you to understand the logic behind it, so that you can continue on your own - not by copying, but by truly understand how and why you make certain decisions while tying.

Butterfly as a teacher
Butterfly (43) is a trauma informed Psychosomatic Sex Therapist and Coach, works with clients individually (see MarchalCoaching.com) and has 10+ years experience leading group workshops and teaching couples in private. She can help you take your first steps into the art of rope bondage; or can stimulate you to deepen your rope play. Butterfly makes an effort to be an inclusive teacher. No matter your age, gender, orientation, body type, experience level - everyone is welcome.
Attention for both partners
Lots of bondage classes mainly focus on the skills of the person tying (the ‘rigger’) and their technique. Butterfly prefers to provide input to both partners; also the person being tied 9the ‘bottom’). Because you both have to enjoy it and be challenged, and there’s always a lot to learn for people in both roles. For the rigger the focus might be more on rope handling and technique; for the bottom it’s important to develop more awareness of the body, limits, movement; for both it’s interesting to look at communication skills.
Lots of bondage classes mainly focus on the skills of the person tying (the ‘rigger’) and their technique. Butterfly prefers to provide input to both partners; also the person being tied 9the ‘bottom’). Because you both have to enjoy it and be challenged, and there’s always a lot to learn for people in both roles. For the rigger the focus might be more on rope handling and technique; for the bottom it’s important to develop more awareness of the body, limits, movement; for both it’s interesting to look at communication skills.
Content
We tailor the content exactly to your wishes and level. You can indicate where your wishes lie. Together we look at where your strengths and areas for development lie, and make a plan about many lessons, which topics and in which order.
Possible topics are:
We tailor the content exactly to your wishes and level. You can indicate where your wishes lie. Together we look at where your strengths and areas for development lie, and make a plan about many lessons, which topics and in which order.
Possible topics are:
- Basic technique for rope bondage (shibari), for beginners
- 'Connective' bondage, connecting with your partner with rope (little technique, more focus on creativity and improvisation), for beginners and advanced students
- Overpowering with rope, taking power and possibly combining this with pleasurable pain
- Anatomy and safety for bondage
- Bondage techniques for suspension, for advanced riggers
- Or whatever you find yourself in want to become proficient (Butterfly’s knowledge is very broad)
Location
You are welcome in Butterfly's well-equipped bondage studio in Utrecht, The Netherlands (centrally located). This light, clean studio has a soft floor and a series of suspension points, including bamboos. You will be welcomed with a cup of tea, we will discuss the goals and approach of the lesson together, and then we will get to work.
You are welcome in Butterfly's well-equipped bondage studio in Utrecht, The Netherlands (centrally located). This light, clean studio has a soft floor and a series of suspension points, including bamboos. You will be welcomed with a cup of tea, we will discuss the goals and approach of the lesson together, and then we will get to work.
Practicalities
- Private tuition is for duo's and not for singles (since you need another person to tie and to get feedback from).
- Butterfly is available to teach Monday-Thursday 11.00-20.30 and Friday 11.00-17.00. Saturday/Sunday she isn't available.
- The fee for a daytime class (11:00-17:00) is 80 euros per hour.
- The fee for an evening class (17:00-20:30) is 115 euros per hour.
- A lesson of 2,5 to 3 hours is recommended.
- You can bring your own rope or buy rope from Butterfly (email for info).
How to book a private class
- Pick a date from Butterfly's calendar for availability
- Send an e-mail, with a prefered date, time and content of the lesson
- Butterfly will respond personally to confirm your booking
Special requests
You might want to book a class with a small group of friends, or invite Butterfly to teach at an event. Or you might want to discuss location and planning. Please contact her by e-mail for any inquiries.
You might want to book a class with a small group of friends, or invite Butterfly to teach at an event. Or you might want to discuss location and planning. Please contact her by e-mail for any inquiries.