Hi, I’m Butterfly
I love Shibari, the intimate art of Japanese rope bondage. It brings us the opportunity to explore connection, surrender, leading & following, trust and intimacy. I usually call this ‘playing for adults’.
I truly enjoy sharing my knowledge. That is why I am teaching Shibari workshops, masterclasses and private lessons since 2012.
Coaching
Besides teaching Shibari, I am a certified Coach & RelationshipTherapist. I guide couples and individuals around relating, intimacy, sexuality, trauma, emotions, behavioural patterns, stress and tension release.
My Shibari background
My journey into Shibari started with me getting tied about 20 years ago. After years of enjoying getting tied, I decided to learn to tie as well.
I have taken classes with about 40 different teachers, over the years.
My passion brought me to Japan, England, Germany, Belgium, Canada, Denmark, France, Sweden and Spain.
In Japan (2012) I took lessons from Osada Steve, Nawashi Kanna, Haruki Yukimura, Saki Kamijo and Otonawa-san. In Europe I took lessons with many different teachers (2011-2022).
Learning Shibari
I am based in The Netherlands (workshops in Utrecht and private tuition in Amersfoort). And I regularly teach all around Europe.
I teach in Dutch, English or Spanish – depending on the participants.
Since I have ample experience in both tying and being tied, I can provide people in both roles with valuable input. In a relaxed atmosphere, with room for humor and everyone's personal contribution, I examine knowledge and skills with which you can experiment further at home.
I make an effort to be an inclusive teacher. No matter your age, gender, orientation, body type, experience level - everyone is welcome. I understand you might be nervous or excited taking part in a workshop or a lesson. So we always start by creating a safer space together. Usually, people feel really safe and relaxed within the first hour. So even when you're hesitant, come take a lesson with me!
What to learn
I offer Shibari workshops and private classes around a range of subjects. Each workshop is a mix of some of these ingredients:
Safety
Important knowledge about anatomy, safety and communication when practicing Shibari.
Suspension
Advanced classes to learn how to suspend your partner, so they no
longer touch the floor.
Power play
Experimenting with leading and following, to discover if dominance or submission are yout thing.
Playfulness
Shibari as ‘play for adults’: having fun, being close, enjoying yourself and your partner.
Sexy Shibari
How to use rope bondage
in the bedroom.
Rope technique
Learning technical 'building blocks',
such as knots and frictions.
Creativity
Using rope to make a piece of art of your partner.
Connection & Intimacy
Feeling closeness, tuning into emotions and intimate touch. Experiencing a deeper connection with your partner.
The body & Anatomy
Knowing how the body works. Looking into biomechanics: how the body moves and how to read its signals.
Sexy Shibari
How to use rope bondage
in the bedroom.
What others say about Butterfly’s workshops
Interview with Butterfly
Have a listen to my podcast with sexprofessor Daphne Gakes, where we talk about seduction, consent and bondage (in Dutch).
